General Resilience

Monday Muse: Fear, Love and Resilience

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” ― Plato


Having a nightlight is common for children. It helps some children feel more secure about sleeping. I never had one of those but when I was growing up, my mother put nightlights in the hallway for my nocturnal bathroom trips (stubbed toes are not fun!). I could have used a nightlight once, though, when I was about 11 years old. I woke up and the first thing I did was run to the light switch which was across the room. I did get the light turned on and it made all the difference, as my fear dissipated.
During a lowpoint in my life I encountered a woman who was deeply suspicious and angry at me. I was struggling to get up from multiple simultaneous knockdown punches in life. I had confidence that one day it would happen, even if I could not get up in the present moment. This woman was angry that I was going through a lowpoint. She was also angry because I would not give up and I was quietly, placidly confident that one day I would rebound and I did whatever I could to make it happen – because I was being resilient. Yet, she was so full of anger and fear about her own childhood and adult losses and hardened in her heart towards others who struggle. She lives in a very abysmal place even though she puts on a smiling face for the camera.
Are you afraid of other people’s internal light? How you will know that you are afraid of someone’s light is if you gossip about them, malign them, seeks to have others have negative opinions about them, put energy into trying to destroy their reputation, basically hating on them. Are you afraid of your own internal light? It will show up as anger, frustration, depression and self-sabotage.
You can stop being filled with fear – and acting from fear – if you choose to be filled with love. Love on others. Love on yourself. Most of us have had some low points in life. Most of us have known people who have had short or long low periods in life. What did hating on yourself or on another person accomplish? What did loving on yourself or another person in that position accomplish? Love is a higher place of being. It is a place of bright internal light. It is a place of resilience.

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